IN AWE

tonight i went to the annual sunset coast fashion parade.
WOW
it was amazing
no - it was mind blowing
we seriously outside ourselves
i sat there thinking "anyone that doesnt come from this church but be in awe right now"
i mean, i was at MY CHURCH. and one girl said to me "ive just never seen anything like this" and i said "neither have i!" HAHA.
i drove home just feeling sooo in love with sunset coast
i really do go to THE BEST church EVER!

learning from courtship

On wednesday night ruth took me to go and see "Pride and Prejudice". I've never seen it, nor have i read the book and ruth had said good things about it so i was excited!
i really enjoyed the movie and it makes me want to see the extended rediculously long version. hehe. as much as some of the ppl's attitudes in films like that annoy me, i really enjoy watching them and seeing how things were.

randomly it inspired me to google "courtship" and i entered into a site discussing courtship.... here is what it had to say (http://www.fortunecity.com/victorian/conway/286/courting.html )

Courtship was considered more a career move than a romantic interlude for young men, as all of a woman's property reverted to him upon marriage. Therefore courting was taken very seriously--by both sides. Men and women were careful not to lead the other on unnecessarily.

From the time she was young, a woman was groomed for this role in life-- dutiful wife and mother. Properly trained, she learned to sing, play piano or guitar, dance and be conversant
about light literature of the day. She also learned French and the rules of etiquette as well as the art of onversation and the art of silence, (EVERYONE GROAN)

COMING OUT' THE COURTSHIP RITUAL
Coming out meant a young woman had completed her education and was officially available on the marriage mart. Financial or family circumstances might delay or move up a girl's debut, though typically, she came out when she was seventeen or eighteen. She purchased a new wardrobe for the season, in order to appear her best in public. A girl was under her mother's wing for the first few years of her social life. (SOUNDS SIMILIAR TO A TEENAGE GIRL...BECOMING THAT AGE WHEN YOU WANT TO LOOK UR BEST FOR THE BOYS)

She used her mother's visiting cards, or that of another female relative if her mother was dead. This same person usually served as her chaperone, as a single girl was never allowed out of the house by herself, especially in mixed company.

Courtship advanced by gradations, with couples first speaking, then walking out together, and finally keeping company after mutual attraction had been confirmed. But a gentleman had to take care in the early stages of courtship. If he was introduced to a lady at a party for the purpose for dancing, he could not automatically resume their acquaintance on the street. He had to be re-introduced by a mutual friend. And then, only upon permission of the lady.

The lower classes had opportunities to socialize at Sunday Service, Church suppers and holiday balls, while upper classes held their social events throughout the season. The season ran from April to July. (THERE ARE SEASONS FOR "PICKING UP!!" ..AKA..HUNTING SEASON - HAHA)

A typical debutante's day meant she rose at 11a.m. or 12 noon, ate breakfast in her dressing room, attended a concert or drove in the Park, dined at eight, went to the opera, then to three or four parties until 5 a.m--all under the watchful eye of her chaperone.
(PARTY ANIMALS!!)

NOW HERE IS SOMETHING I THINK WE COULD ALL LEARN FROM...

A single woman never walked out alone. Her chaperone had to be older and preferably married.

If she had progressed to the stage of courtship in which she walked out with a gentleman, they always walked apart.

A gentleman could offer his hand over rough spots, the only contact he was allowed with a woman who was not his fiancée.

Proper women never rode alone in a closed carriage with a man who wasn't a relative.

She would never call upon an unmarried gentleman at his place of residence.

She couldn't receive a man at home if she was alone. Another family member had to be present in the room.

A gentlewoman never looked back after anyone in the street, or turned to stare at others at church, the opera, etc.

No impure conversations were held in front of single women.

No sexual contact was allowed before marriage. Innocence was demanded by men from girls in his class, and most especially from his future wife.

The couple could become a bit more intimate once they were engaged. They could stroll out alone, hold hands in public, and take unchaperoned rides. A hand around the waist, a chaste kiss, a pressing of the hand, were allowed. They could also visit alone behind closed doors. But they had to be dutifully separated by nightfall, or overnight at country parties.

Thus, if the engagement was broken, the girl suffered the consequences of a ruined reputation because of her previous behavior.

... i dont think i need to say anymore. i know ive broken every last one of those rules in the past... and it just goes to show, even back in the courting days they knew that doing such things would lead to suffering! maybe we could learn a thing or two from the ways of the past!

changing hearts.

what happens between now and then? when then she drove me crazy, but now i love her.
how does that happen? its amazing how things can change and how people can change you.
before i was one of those people that swept her aside.
now if someone sweeps her aside i want to bash them - hehe ok not quite but close!
only god can bring about changes like this
and it really has witnessed to me how He can sooo just change our hearts.
it means we all have hope of loving - and being loved

i miss my family :-(

sometimes i hate the lead up to christmas...because these are the people that i DONT get to spend it with...while at work, everyone is full of christmas cheer. and all i want is for them to shutup and for my family to come home. :-(

 

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im sitting here, rather wet and very cold waiting for the shower...
today was our church's baptisms at arena joondalup and it was so great seeing all these new christians making quality decisions.
afterwards was free swimming and i was standing around watching everyone wishing that i had bought my bathers. out of no where rick grabbed me and said that someone should grab my fone cos i was going in - with or without it! aahhhh. yep. i had been targeted for an undeserved dunking in the pool! i didnt believe him until i started getting pushed closer to the edge! someone took my fone and in i went. i thought it was hilarious...somehow. i guess because i had just been standing there thinking "i wish i was in there"...hhmmm wot do they say, "be careful wot u wish for"? lol.
the water was nice and it was good for a laugh so it didnt bother me. eventually i got out and started to round up the girls that i was driving home. then rob called out to me and said "hey carrie, thanks for being such a good sport, others would have been so dark about that"
i just laughed. but i mean i didnt really think about it til he said that. to me it wasnt an issue. it was funny and its not like rick was rough or was doing it to be mean. they were just being boys.
but it then made me think of an earlier incident when one of the boys did a bombie and water splashed all over another guy and he chucked the biggest hissy-fit over it and stormed off.
and then it got me thinking, about how tiny little incidents like this really do hav a way of showing true colours! maybe even these are little tests from god to see how we handle small seemingly insignificant happenings. cos realistically, its the smaller things in life that people remember. and people remember how u react to what happens to u.
ive totally gone off on a tangent and im not saying this to say "oh im so great becos i didnt chuck a sad" it just made me see, how small things like this have a tendency to bring out the best or the worst in people!

my relationship type....

hey edwin, we are the same.
floating! lol

Your Ideal Relationship is Serious Dating

You're not ready to go walking down the aisle.But you may be ready in a couple of years.You prefer to date one on one, with a commitment.And while chemistry is important, so is compatibility.

What's" Your Ideal Relationship?

desire

desire

want
aspire to
covet
crave
fancy
hope for
long for
set ones heart on
thirst for
wish for
yearn for
ache
appetite
aspiration
passion
desire

what is it that makes me desire to be desired?
i thought id filled that hole
but i mean, when will that ever be filled? surely its human nature to want someone to want you, to feel loved.
i want someone to love me
but when i find someone who does, i dont have the time for it.

girls can be so mixed up!!!